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When it comes to complete strangers, I'm suspicious, because I have nothing on which to base my trust.

If someone is a stranger to me but not to my friends or family, I'll generally give them the benefit of the doubt, but only with small matters, like handing them the key to my car so they can get something out of the trunk. (The likelihood they'll steal the car is pretty remote since I know who I gave the key to.)

When it comes to secrets, I only share them on a need to know basis, and there are very few instances when someone has a need to know.

As for people I only know online: It generally doesn't occur to me to assume malicious intent, but it also doesn't occur to me to share anything sensitive. It seems like every other day I have someone trying to phish or spoof me via email. Not to mention the goofy sockpuppetry on this particular site.

Trust is realised through the validation it's use is of value. While utterly paranoid to "trust no one", it is wise to do that before you know who they really are.

On a website like this trust goes for naught. Less so on a social media with less anonymity. Facebook tries for authenticity. Plucking through the incongruities yourself is long.

It depends on the environment you trust in and the goals of the individual. Plenty of homeless tramps out there.  And being a feral animal can end up at sixes and sevens.  

I find it hard to trust strangers. I'm slightly paranoid. Or maybe I'm trying to be realistic. For example, there is this old saying here: If you want to turn someone into your enemy, lend them money. That means that if you lend someone money, they will like you but when you try to get it back, they will hate you. I usually refuse to lend people money. Unless it's such a small sum that I won't regret it if I lose it. So then I might give in to feel better about myself.

I wouldn't get into a stranger's car but that applies to men only. Seriously, it creeps me out when some guy offers to give me a lift, even if I've seen him before or he's from my neighborhood. That doesn't apply to the guys I know very well. I'm also more inclined to trust women.

I don't have problems trusting friends and family members. For example, my friend, whom I call my auntie and who was also my mom's friend, has a key to my home so that she can take care of the cat if I'm away.

As far as the people online go, I tell them only what I wouldn't mind the general public to hear. That applies also to the so-called friends, i.e., the people you add here, on Facebook or any other social network. Not that I have oh so many secrets. I prefer genuine self-expression to the role playing. But there is the info you shouldn't reveal to avoid unnecessary headaches later.

Fortunately everyone I know has credit cards, so they never need to borrow money from me. 

I would be very disinclined to get into a car with a stranger. I don't even like to use Uber. As for trusting women more than men - I used to, but don't any longer, because I wised up to the fact that a woman with a gun is just as dangerous as a man with a gun, and women can become drug addicts as easily as men can.

Regarding people online, the craziest thing I ever did was drive a thousand miles to hang out with someone for the weekend. But he and I had practically done Vulcan mind melds via keyboard for months. The conversations were so deep and wide, you would think we were two gay guys falling in love (we weren't).

Trust no one. Expect the unexpected, and be especially wary of the exceptionally cunning.

Trust no one 

Trust no one. 

No one trusts.

Why?

Because you're a f. insane asylum.

Frankly I don't count you as genius but rather as insane.

you could have crossed both sides, I do not see the difference. A genius seems like insane in a way. 

In my relationships, complete trust would take a month or so to develop, but once that threshold is reached there’s been complete unfettered trust in all things. I have no problem with my girlfriends hanging out with their guy friends as long as they make time for me.

Trust is gained in the first five seconds. Then it's just condescension. 

What to tell you about trust, it's a lost game. Trust the gods? Trust fate? In the end you are on your own, believing you have done it all right. You have tried to avoid what you don't want to happen, but in the end fate wins, there is no escape.

I used to trust every body since I was a very young boy,  but little by little all the people ( religious or not) I put my trust on started betraying me  one by one,  bosom friends,  unknown persons,  classmates,  teachers,  neighbors,  relatives ( including wife and children, brothers and sisters), church  and religious people, coworkers,  bosses,  God and angels,  uffff and the list goes on and on. By my own experience,  now @#$%^ I HAVE LEARNED TO TRUST NOBODY WITH THE EXCEPTION OF NOBODY .

It can be difficult to gain my trust due to the fact of being stabbed in the back by too many so called friends. I was too damn nice to people in my younger years and it caused me to be more selective. You live And you learn.