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I guess I'm pretty sadistic at times. Blood, psychological control and crucifixion all appeal to me, though I have never actually explored the world of BDSM (as of yet). I have had an interest of doing it for some time, but wouldn't really know where to begin. For me, though, I don't really get off sexually on the idea of tying girls up and whipping them or whatever - it's all more of like a psychological fetish. Psychologically I get off on the idea of controlling another human being both physically and mentally.
Well, the blood is a sexual interest. I am into girls who self-injure or have a history of it. Scars are like beauty marks to me. I know SI is a psychological issue and not healthy, but I can't help it. I'm a bit twisted like that.
As a result, of the blood thing, the idea of knife play appeals to me (small scratches and tiny cuts might satisfy me), but I hear that that's a way advanced aspect of BDSM and I haven't even begun to scratch the surface of BDSM.
As for crucifixion, that is really more of an artistic interest. I think a naked, crucified woman is as beautiful a work of art as any sculpture or painting.
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*clears her throat abruptly* Please allow m to express my view in what I think about the matter.
Let us just say that human sexuality is almost as complex as human psychology, and combined they become a very intricate web. Mainly because people are so diverse and everyone likes and goes for what they actually like rather than figuring out what others like too and kind of build a bridge and meet in between.
As for me, I've never really found anyone in particular who tempted me enough for the submissive and even dominant roles. I just move with the flow, and tend to work with what I get. Simple as that.
On the other hand many women tend to be 'submissive's' or 'dommes' just for the title without properly thinking about it, males included and that makes them look cowardly or foolish. On the other hand I'm aware that men that show potential of such a lifestyle may somewhat at times sound disturbing or intimidating even which should not be the case if you get my gist.
We all think that we will find someone who is sexy, pleasing, rough, dominating ( or submissive), someone that meets even the physical requirements and so on...and since you tend to 'look' for rather than wait and see what comes, things tend to get even more complicated.
I've read psychology of BDSM, I got to say it interests me a great deal because it interests me above all why women and men seem to want this sort of lifestyle ( including myself) without properly putting enough thought or even dedication and will in it and once they are close to it, and reality hits them they all seem to tend to back out, or else resort to 'insults' to feel more in 'control' of the great insecurity they are actually feeling.
Ugh, this post has been longer than I thought, but meh what can I say I love psychology and relaying my own thoughts.
You're most welcome to bash me whenever you like in the matter.
Vampira
Aside from children and animals, I've done everything on Christian Grey's "hard limits" list.
Am I kinktastically freaky cool enough yet?
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MemberJust remember, always, SSC Safe, Sane, Consensual.Aside from children and animals, I've done everything on Christian Grey's "hard limits" list.
Am I kinktastically freaky cool enough yet?
Well, that should do. The Marquis de Sade seemed to think that anything that causes the juices to rise is good. I couldn't agree more...
Personally, I'm a Dom of several years. I love just about everything to do with it. There are few kinks I haven't atleast dipped my toe into. My favorites are impact play and age play. If anyone wants, they can add me on fetlife, my name there is the same as here.
Bleh! Christian Grey?!!! That doesn't even go near to the real thing. It's a soppy romance that bored the living daylights out of me after reading most of it.
Certainly not my genre of reading like Twilight isn't my genre of reading cos vampires do not sparkle!
But I've a curious question for all of you. Ok. Let's face it, being a kinksters is fun it's a thrill bla bla bla...but how can you honestly learn someone properly enough from the net without ever actually meeting the person? - You can't know their limits, nor their essence unless you've met them face to face. Other than that, it's just the regular messing around on the net for fun as I call it. Nothing wrong, but nothing that can actually lead to 'serious' relationships either. Or so I think.
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Certainly not my genre of reading like Twilight isn't my genre of reading cos vampires do not sparkle!This is funny because 50 Shades of Rape actually started as a Twilight-fanfiction. Also the book has very little to do with actual BDSM and should never be used as a guide or introduction of any kind, because it is very misleading, misinforming, and re-enacting the scenes can be very harmful and dangerous.
But I've a curious question for all of you. Ok. Let's face it, being a kinksters is fun it's a thrill bla bla bla...but how can you honestly learn someone properly enough from the net without ever actually meeting the person?Is there a reason you shouldn't meet them in person? I've met all of my playmates in person and had very long and through discussions with them on their limits and desires before doing anything else. I've basically been a good friend with each contact before even considering a session.
Just remember, always, SSC Safe, Sane, Consensual.Yeah, about that. At the risk of sounding like an internet badass who won't provide any sort of tangible "proof" of said badassetry... no. Safe? Some people get off on not so safe things; some enjoy pushing to and beyond limits. Sane? By whose definition? Again, limits. Consensual? Maybe. Mostly. I'm more of a RACK type myself (light on the C) if you had to apply a catchy acronym.
MemberRACK is fine too, but your self professed lack of emphasis on the C disconcerts me. That's kind of an important part of the whole thing. That's really the only thing separating an eager Dom from a rapist, or, well, anyone from a rapist.
Just remember, always, SSC Safe, Sane, Consensual.Yeah, about that. At the risk of sounding like an internet badass who won't provide any sort of tangible "proof" of said badassetry... no. Safe? Some people get off on not so safe things; some enjoy pushing to and beyond limits. Sane? By whose definition? Again, limits. Consensual? Maybe. Mostly. I'm more of a RACK type myself (light on the C) if you had to apply a catchy acronym.
If you don't have some form of underlying consent you're not a Dom, just an abusive asshole.
That's kind of an important part of the whole thing.
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It's not about SSC in particular, but about creating a system that works for all parties, and reducing the risk of serious injury to a minimum for all activities involved - and making sure everyone involved wants to be involved.
You are the reason kinksters, and Doms in particular have a bad name.
@Charles. Good on you if you have. I call it messing around on the net, because I've solely met mostly wannabees instead of the real thing and its evident by the way they actually dialogue with you. But either way why the hell would one submit themselves or even perform sex torture at all?
I understand that bondage is acceptable, that some methods of restraint are also acceptable but why should making a person feel pain be acceptable?
- THAT is what I don't understand. Maybe it is because I haven't met someone worthy of showing me that intensity. Every man has a beast within that likes to dominate and subdue others. How it's approached, is a totally different thing.
Rough sex is acceptable because it creates spice and excitement...but torture, pain and sadistic practices? Really?
@Jams STL. Seriously mate, get your facts straight :P
Meh, Safe, Sane, Consensual an After-Care. I'm not really sure I can believe that sorry. In almost ALL the people I've encountered they start telling you that, and when thy get deeper into it the concept becomes quite blurry.
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SSC is basically the same as RACK. The only difference is that the abbreviation "RACK" substituted SSC by reason there were amateur kinksters who failed to understand the original intent of SSC in the first place.
I understand that bondage is acceptable, that some methods of restraint are also acceptable but why should making a person feel pain be acceptable?Who are you to say what is acceptable and what isn't? Why are some forms of restraint "acceptable" and others not?
In almost ALL the people I've encountered they start telling you that, and when thy get deeper into it the concept becomes quite blurry.These are the people you talk to online?
Christian Grey?!!! That doesn't even go near to the real thing.Says the girl who doesn't meet kinksters in person? Or have I misunderstood your previous posts?
*raises a sardonic eyebrow*
Seriously or what?
1. You don't know what I've been through, nor what I experienced both in real and online so before judging me so bluntly please inform yourself better.
2. I'm only logically thinking what could be acceptable for me. I was just trying to understand why certain extremities are acceptable and not. I mean why would it be acceptable for you or even for me to whip and beat until you bleed the living daylights out of you for the sheer pleasure of it huh? and don't tell me fun within limits because I'll ROFL as hard as I can.
3. I'm not any less experienced than you are. Don't make that mistake. It's annoying. I may be less experienced in the BDSM field but that does not man I'm totally oblivious to it either. I know what I'm looking for, and I know I don't want to get devoured by amateurs or wannabes simple as that.
Sincerely,
Vampira
